If you don’t belief in yourself, don’t expect others to
Have you ever listened to a passionate speaker or leader, and wondered how they have become so popular?! Maybe the content of their speech is not coherent or you don’t agree with what they are saying, yet they still manage to persuade hundreds or millions of people to believe in themselves. People follow strong believers even to their graves. Many people simply follow the belief that the great leaders of the world possess, and pay little attention to questioning the substance of what they are saying as they are caught up in their belief, confidence and charisma. All great speakers, leaders, artists, athletes and performers have a few things in common, one of which is that they back themselves. Every time they step up to perform they have to believe in themselves as they know they cannot hide. No one will be there to rescue them, so they either back themselves or don’t do it. The bigger the profile, stage and audience the harder it is to hide and perform well without backing yourself.
Do you ever think great performers go into every performance or competition thinking that they will win/nail it every time, off course not. Humans are humans, and the psyche will always allow a string of doubt no matter how small or big, however the great athletes who may not even believe they will win, still go out and back themselves knowing that the possibility is there. If you look closely at a lot of great performers it is not till some way after the start they hit full confidence and start playing at their best. Sometimes the belief comes as a result of backing yourself and you find your true belief and confidence in the performance after your body surprises yourself or your conscious mind.
Backing yourself doesn’t mean that you need to know that you will accomplish the task 100% of the time, without a shadow of doubt. It simply means that you have the courage to trust yourself and that you will find an outcome along the way. Being your best fan does not need to be a statement of arrogance or show of superiority, it is simply accepting the reality that if you don’t believe in yourself then it is unlikely others will. A great example of this is a high school basketball player who trained hard but got dropped form his high school team for not being good enough. Alot of people would have given up or found a distraction, but this basketball player kept backing himself and became the legend we know as Michael Jordon.
“But although I have confidence, sometimes I don’t think the task ahead of me is achievable and I lack that belief”.
If you find yourself doubting yourself, know that you are either facing a life threatening experience and you should probably listen to your instinct, or you are listening to the doubts of your conscious mind which has rooted itself in a pattern of doubt. When this situation occurs, for me, I often laugh at myself, as I know all I need to look at is how incredible my subconscious is. The complexity of the tasks the subconscious performs, minute by minute, is often far more complex than the task ahead. Imagine if you had to take on a fraction of the tasks the subconscious does in a few seconds. Imagine having to control the blood flow of your body, making sure every organ is performing at its best and servicing parts of the body that need more blood than others. Imagine how precisely each of the thousand of muscle strands has to move in order to lift a drink in to your mouth, or walk across the room to turn on a light, let alone return a serve, hit a golf ball or balance on a wave. Imagine the thousands of messages going through your nervous system, stimulating different parts of the body, and the processing of turning oxygen into energy as you effortless breath and maintain the correct levels of gasses in your body. This is a fraction of what is going on inside the body and the subconscious does this without question and can handle a hundred fold more. The brain is far smarter and faster than the most powerful computer known to man. This incredible innate ability opens up a world of possibilities and potential if we allow ourselves to use it. With such an incredible and intelligent brain already activated, the subconscious tends to put the conscious to shame in comparison. When we think of this magic inside us, that is already happening, suddenly the overbearing task ahead seems a lot simpler, ask long as we allow ourselves to trust our subconscious and ‘back ourselves’.
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